Megorious

And so on….

My big freak of a roommate turned the seemingly simple assignment of finding a new roommate into an all out unwarranted attack on my character. [For the record, my character is Ryan.] After a morning of sitting back and ignoring Amy’s ridiculous emails I decided to strike back. Before you read the emails below I suggest reading the first string of emails so that you will understand exactly what I am talking about. The emails that follow are from the same day, Monday May 8, 2006, as the previous emails. This new slew of badgering came after Amy’s lunch. Remember, this is still Monday.

Monday, 1:42 PM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Amy,
We have only been looking for a roommate for two days and I have been more than cooperative. We are just going to have to work around everyone’s schedules. We can show the place all weekend. I’m sorry I am not going to be home tonight. I am not refusing to meet Alison. I just won’t be here. Neither will Drew, he has to work. You can show the apartment but half the people living here won’t be home tonight. If she likes the place she will need to come back to meet us. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time by having them come out here multiple times.

I didn’t say a single thing about who I would or wouldn’t consider. YOU are the one who emailed me this morning saying “no students”. I didn’t drag Kathryn into this either. She’s in this because this is her play. Finding a roommate concerns her the most because this person will replace her on the lease. This dragged on for two months last time because you kept rejecting everyone. I think it’s important for her to know that you have certain requirements. You did the same thing last time with Rebecca and Rebecca called you on it.
Your last email seemed to be less about finding a roommate and more about attacking my character. It was unnecessary and I would appreciate it if you didn’t do it again.

Ryan

Monday, 2:47 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ryan,
I apologize for sounding critical of you. My intention was not to make you feel bad. I felt frustrated because I felt manipulated. I realize you are just doing whatever feels right to you and it’s not my business to judge you or your motives. I will try not to do that again. But to answer your question…The person we choose is important to me because although I am not there all the time, I have my health and well-being to worry about especially where I live. I have asked you guys not to drink or have people over because it makes me feel uncomfortable. I kind of understand this because when I used to drink all the time, I couldn’t control my behavior. I just did whatever I wanted no matter who it affected. But, as long as I’m still here, I need to be careful about bringing in a third person and consider what kind of dynamic that creates even if I am not home often. You may not realize that it takes a lot of work to be sober and I’m sure you have no idea what that kind of life is like, but it is important to me now that where I live feels reasonably calm and I feel secure and at ease when I am there. With Kathryn moving, I need to be sure that whoever moves in does not create the kind of chaotic dynamic that I felt with Rebecca and Kate. I am sure we will find someone who works for all of us. Alison is coming by tonight and if she is interested you can talk to her on the phone. Maybe next time you’ll make time to meet the person who will be living with you.

Take care of yourself,
- Amy

Monday, 3:13 PM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Amy,
Katelynn came by and she really liked the place. I wouldn’t have a problem living with her. If you would like to call her, her number is ### ### ####. I’ll try to be home by 9:15 to meet Alison tonight. I’ll also be home Wednesday night so we can have people come by then as well.

Thanks,
Ryan

Monday, 3:15 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ok. I will give her a call. See compromise is a two way street.

Monday, 3:37 PM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Hey Amy, I won’t be able to make it home by 9:15 but I can be home between 9:30-9:45 to meet Alison. Perhaps you can give her the grande tour and then we can both sit down and talk to her. I figure she’ll still be there by 9:30. Please let me know if she cancels or changes the time because I am leaving early to come home.

Thanks,
Ryan

Monday, 3:39 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

That sounds good. Sorry to inconvenience you so much.

This Boston entry was posted Tuesday, July 4th, 2006 at 8:09 am.
Tags: amy, Boston, Brookline, roommates, The Eye