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The roommate search is not off to a good start. Below are the email exchanges that took place between Sunday night and Monday afternoon. Pay particular attention to the times of the emails, especially the early Monday morning emails. Amy is impatient and needs immediate gratification, just like when Amy came crashing into my room at five in the morning.

These emails are in their original state and the content has not been altered in any way.

Sunday, 9:15 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Hey Ryan,
This girl sounds cool. I didn’t call her yet. But I will give her a call tomorrow.
Are you and Drew around any evenings this week to meet her? I will make myself available. Let me know what nights are best for you.
Thanks!
- Amy

P.S. Can you give me Drew’s email address so I can get him in the loop?

Monday, 12:05 AM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Hey Amy,

Drew and I both have to work most nights this week. I would have taken a night or two off if I had known we were going to be looking for roommates again. I won’t be home Monday evening until late because I already have plans. It would be better if we could show the apartment during the day. Drew and I both want to be here to meet possible roommates. I don’t think anyone would be comfortable seeing the apartment with half of the people that live there not present for them to meet. If we can’t all be here then maybe we could work something out where the person could come back if they liked the place and were interested. This girl named Katelynn emailed me and she’s going to come look at the place Monday. She’s a junior at Suffolk and has a full-time job.

I don’t have Drew’s email address either. I’ll ask him for it tonight if I see him before you.

-Ryan

Monday, 5:44 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Hey Ryan,
I think you mentioned yesterday someone coming by and said she was a junior and it didn’t register. I assume that means an undergrad in college. I am not comfortable living with undergraduates so I do not want you to have to waste your time having them come by as this is already a painfully arduous process. Perhaps we can save time if we put that in the ad? I am fine with any working professionals and graduates students in there late-twenties or thirties. These three girls are in their mid twenties and can all come by tonight. Would you like me to call them or would you like to?

Also, do you have Drew’s email address to keep him in the loop?

Thanks,
Amy

Monday, 5:52 AM
From: Amy | To: Allison
CC: Ryan

Hi Allison,
Thanks for your reply! Do you think you’d be able to come check it out this evening? We’ll be home by 8:00 if you can come by. Sorry so brief…I am getting ready to run off to work. Let me know.

Thanks!
- Amy

Monday, 5:53 AM
From: Amy | To: Sara
CC: Ryan

Hi Sara,
Thanks for your reply! Do you think you’d be able to come check it out this evening? We’ll be home by 8:00 if you can come by. Sorry so brief…I am getting ready to run off to work. Let me know.

Thanks!
- Amy

Monday, 6:08 AM
From: Allison | To: Amy
CC: Ryan

Hi Amy, I’d love to. I’m working late tonight, so would it be alright if I came around 9pm? Please let me know. Thanks! Alison

Monday, 6:44 AM
From: Amy | To: Allison
CC: Ryan

Yes. 9PM is fine with me.
Actually, can you come at 9:15?
Cheers,
Amy

Monday, 6:45 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Hi Ryan,
I think this person, Allison, will be coming by at @ 9:15. Will you be home? I am awaiting a final confirmation. Will you be around?
- Amy

Monday, 6:56 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ryan,
I don’t think it’s very mature of you to just avoid my emails. This process is not just about you. I have people that want to view the apartment and you are avoiding my emails. If you don’t want to cooperate I can do everything myself. Will you be home tonight??? I need Drew’s email!!!

-Amy

Monday, 7:35 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

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Monday, 9:05 AM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Hey Amy, I just got up, sorry I didn’t respond sooner.
Drew has to work tonight and I won’t be home either. I made plans last week long before I knew we would be showing the apartment. I’ll try to be home by 9:15. I don’t have Drew’s email but I’ll be sure to get it from him when I see him.

I think ruling out students will really limit our options. I am an undergrad student and will be for a few more years. This is a college city and the school year just ended and a lot of students are looking for a permanent place. I know several people from school who are looking right now that would make a good fit. Every reply I’ve received from the post has been from a student. Drew and I are also in the service industry and don’t have working professional hours. I think many working professionals would not want to live in an apartment with non working professionals. Remember that one of Rebecca’s primary reasons for moving out (besides hating Kate) was that she was living with students and people with hours. Also, I would prefer not to live with someone in their 30s just as much as I’m sure they wouldn’t want to live here. I just feel that would make for an awkward living environment. The four of us get along well because we are all around the same age. I’m willing to meet whomever and won’t rule anyone out without actually meeting them.

I didn’t specify that we were looking for a “student” or “professional” in my post but I did mention that I was a student and that Drew and I were in the service industry and were both night owls. The responses I’ve received so far have been from students. We need to be upfront and honest with people about who they will be living with. Otherwise we will be wasting their and our own time.

- Ryan

Monday, 9:21 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ryan,
I am not comfortable living with anyone who is a undergraduate and so we will have to meet partway. I am willing to live with someone in their midtwenties, which is the age range of both of you but not younger. I am not comfortable living with anyone who does drugs or spends most of their time partying. That is pretty much the bottom line. This process is about compromise and not just about YOU feeling comfortable in the apartment. It has been good that we have been getting along but I won’t be bullied into living with someone I am not comfortable with by you refusing to meet anyone that I receive emails from or saying you won’t be home or available. That is selfish and childish. I DO NOT RESPOND WELL TO BULLYING OR THREATS EITHER. I am willing to meet whomever you would like me to as long as they aren’t a student or a drinker. But if we are going to find someone that we ALL feel comfortable with, you will need to do the same. You are in your mid twenties so let’s act like it. This can become another big drama where we end up hating each other and everyone is miserable. Or we can be adults and meet each other partway. It is up to you and I hope you will think about this. Alison will come by at 9. If you are not willing to be there, you can speak with her on the phone or if she likes it, she can come back. If you would like me to consider your needs as a roommate, you’ll have to consider mine as well. Respect is a two way street.

- Amy

Monday, 9:26 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Remember, we all have to sign the paper.
We can make it easy or we can make it really hard.
It’s in part up to you.

Monday, 9:29 AM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Amy,
I’m not going to be home tonight because I already have plans, not because I don’t want to meet this girl. I am out of school for the next three weeks so I am working as much as I can. I’m working every night this week except for Wednesday. I will only be available to show the place during the daytime and Sundays. If she likes the place she will need to come back to meet Drew and myself. I would prefer to meet someone before they move in and I’m sure they would want to meet their other roommates as well.

-Ryan

Monday, 9:33 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Hi Ryan,
That’s not a problem. I will see if she can come by another day since you are refusing to meet her. What nights are you free? I am only free any night after 9:15. I have meetings every night from 5-9 and I’m already leaving early to accommodate you. Perhaps you should stop and think about others for a minute. THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU. If I am making sacrifices then you need to.
Let me know your availability so we can all work around it. I HAVE ASKED YOU FOR DREWS EMAIL SEVERAL TIMES AND YOU REFUSE TO GIVE IT TO ME.

Amy

Monday, 9:54 AM
From: Ryan | To: Kathryn

It begins…
Amy is already starting to cause problems. She emailed me this morning saying that she doesn’t want any students to live and that I’m wasting my time by showing the apartment to that girl today. All the people she was interested in last time were the types of people that myself and Drew would probably be uncomfortable living with. I’m still going to show the apartment to Katelynn today and I’ll do what I can to handle Amy’s issues. Maybe we should silence her. Rebecca is still at the morgue for the next week…

Rhine

Monday, 9:56 AM
From: Kathryn | To: Ryan

Hey Ryan,
What the hell is her problem? Can I Have her email address? I’m just going to tell her htat I really need someone for the summer and she can spend more time looking for someone suitable for september but I really CANNOT pay double rent and three months is not going to be horrible.
There is no way that she is going to fuck this up for me.

Monday, 10:43 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Hi Ryan,
Ok. That is fine. Just have some people come by during the day and if you like any, I will talk to them on the phone and maybe they can come back if they seem like a good fit for the place. I am only around at night, so I can only have people come by at night and if they like it, I will have them contact you. We can also have any promising people come back on Sunday. Let me know if you have any luck today and if so, give me their numbers. I am still going to have Alison come by tonight even though you refuse to meet her. I just can’t believe you would stoop so low as to avoid being home when I told you yesterday that I was going to have people come by.

Thanks,
Amy

Monday, 11:21 AM
From: Kathryn | To: Amy
CC: Ryan

Hi Amy,

How’s it going today? I got your email address from Ryan because I assumed it would be easier if we both had each other’s contact info. Ryan also told me that you were ruling out all students for the room. While I understand that you would not want to live with someone young and irresponsible, I can assure you that I will find a responsible and respectful roommate to take my place, I just hate to rule out anyone at this point because I am on very short notice and as you can understand I cannot afford to pay rent on two apartments. If you would prefer, I can find someone short term (just the summer) so that you can take more time to find someone for September. At this point, I just don’t think it’s in our best interest to rule out anyone before we have met them, especially in a place like Boston made up of so many students.

Perhaps we can talk more about this tonight.

Monday, 12:15 PM
From: Amy | To: Kathryn
CC: Ryan

Hi Kathryn,

I actually have had a good response rate from people who are in grad school and/or working as well but Ryan doesn’t seem to be interested in meeting them. Ryan said he is not willing to live with anyone who is “older” and I ‘m not sure what this means exactly but this limits our options a lot. Perhaps you guys can talk and see if he might be a bit more flexible on this so as well so we can come to an agreement where we can all feel comfortable. I am confident that there are many people looking who are about our age.
One girl is coming by tonight actually. Let me know what you come up with.

Thanks,
Amy

Monday, 12:25 PM
From: Kathryn | To: Amy
CC: Ryan

Well that’s good. I have someone coming by tonight as well and there is also the girl coming by this afternoon. It sounds like we are off to a good start so hopefully we’ll find someone that works.
Thanks for both of your help on this, I know it’s a huge pain in the ass. I guess we should just wait to meet the people and see what they all are like.
-k

Monday, 12:30 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ryan,
It really wasn’t necessary to try and drag Kathryn in, manipulating her to try and manipulate me so that you can get what you want. This is exactly the kind of behavior that causes tension in the apartment. Is it really that hard to be a little less selfish and just agree to be willing to meet people other than the ones who email you? Rather than trying to manipulate everyone so you can get your way? All you’d need to do to make this process more amicable is be a little willing to compromise as I did the last time, when we met Drew and Kathryn, and I’m sure we’ll find someone. This also means agreeing to be available to meet people. I don’t really appreciate this stuff. It doesn’t work on me anyway. All it does is create animosity between us and I still won’t sign off on someone I don’t feel comfortable with. I think it is kind of sad that getting what you want is more important than having good relationships with people. I’m sure it doesn’t really make you feel good about yourself either. I’d rather we just get along. Maybe you could try having a little respect and see what happens. It will be a lot easier and I’ll definitely be more inclined to be accommodating myself in the absence of all that.

I feel sorry for you. You are at the same point I was a few years ago. I hope one day you will wake up and realize that you aren’t the only person that matters. Your life is controlled by fear and I pity you. But I can help you.
- Amy

Okie dokie. I think the Donnie Darko-esque line about my life being controlled by fear is a good place to end part one. Those are just the Monday emails up until midday. This went on all day and it really blew up Tuesday. Eventually I do stop sugar-coating everything. There is only so much insanity I can take. The hilarity of Amy’s emails grows exponentially and they become absolutely ridiculous.

This Boston entry was posted Wednesday, May 10th, 2006 at 9:46 am.
Tags: amy, Boston, Brookline, roommates, The Eye