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Oh my my my my my my my my my. Here’s a quick recap of where things stood around 1:30 PM on Tuesday, May 9, 2006:

• Amy is a big freak.
• Amy is trying to cheat Kathryn out of getting her deposit back**.
• Amy still has no clue when I am available to show the apartment.
• Ryan is available thrice as much as Amy is to show the apartment.
• Sarra, the potential roommate, is just as big of a freak.

**The way the roommate change works is very simple. When someone moves in, they pay first and last month’s rent and a security deposit ($1537.50). When someone moves out they find a replacement. The replacement pays their first month’s rent ($615) to our landlord. Last month’s rent and the deposit ($922.50) is paid to the roommate they are replacing. There is no penalty for breaking the lease. It just that since Boston is a college town, the landlord doesn’t want to deal with the refunding of moneys. It’s left up to the tenants to work out. Every single person who has moved into our apartment has done it this way. Amy just decided to attempt to alter the procedure this time.

Now, this is where things get nasty…

Tuesday, 1:20 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ryan, remember that Kathryn is the one breaking the lease. It is optional for Sarra to pay her back. If she can’t then it is Kathryn’s problem. Not Sarras.

Sarra will make a great roommate. I’m going to take down my posting now that we have found someone. She can move in as soon as she finds a job and gets paid. If that’s not until July then that is Kathryn’s problem, not ours. In the meantime, we can submit Sarra to be approved since that process takes some time.

Thanks,
Amy

Tuesday, 1:23 PM
From: Ryan | To: Amy
CC: Kathryn

Amy, as we learned last time, Hamilton won’t approve someone who doesn’t have a job. It would be a waste of time to submit someone to Hamilton only for them to be declined. I don’t understand how you find someone without a job more responsible than someone who is a full time student and has a full time job. Also, I think you’re missing the point. I was okay with Katelynn because I thought the two of you would get along great. I picked her because she was ideal for YOU. She was moving out of her old place because of unfortunate circumstances that you could relate to. I think you need to look past age.

I said this yesterday but I’ll say it again. We owe it to Kathryn to settle this now. She has put forth more effort than any other roommate you’ve probably ever had live here. So far you’ve rejected everyone she and I have submitted. You haven’t even had a single person view the apartment. If you can’t come to reason than maybe I should consider looking for a new place to live as well. I am a special circumstance when it comes to the Hamilton Company. They have the police report and documentation from myself, Kate and Rebecca about the incidents of last year. They are fully aware of everything that transpired in the apartment and both Kate and Rebecca cited you as a primary reason for wanting to move out. If you want I can move out and you can be stuck trying to find two roommates.

This isn’t a threat Amy, it’s rationale. Stop acting like the lord of the fucking apartment that you are never even in.

-Ryan

Tuesday, 1:36 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan
CC: Kathryn

Ryan,
Hamilton will approve graduate students because like me they know that they tend to be responsible. I have lived with many. In fact, they don’t approve undergrads without co-signers. Go figure. I have asked Sarra to come by and you will not even meet her. It is unfortunate how unable you are to see your part in all this.
- Amy

Tuesday, 1:48 PM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Amy, I will say this again. Hamilton WILL NOT APPROVE SOMEONE WITHOUT A JOB. The only reason Kathryn ended up living here in the first place is because that guy Justin didn’t have a job and Hamilton rejected him. He was also a grad student. Hamilton requires a minimum income for tenants. It would be a waste of time to get Kathryn’s hopes up by submitting someone who would be rejected.

Also, you should not have told Sarra that she can have the apartment. You haven’t met her, I haven’t met her. She hasn’t even seen the place yet. I’m not going to live with someone who I haven’t even met. And I’m sure Sarra would feel the same way. When I talked to Sarra she couldn’t even give me a time when she was available. I’m not going to alter my schedule again to accommodate people that may or may not show up. That last email I only meant to send to you, not to Kathyrn. And I just emailed Kathryn apologizing for it. From now on any personal attacks or jibes you want to take at me send ONLY TO ME. Please do not send them to Kathryn. I imagine our failure to get along and see eye to eye on this matter is upsetting her.

I’m sorry for my tone but you are complicating an already arduous process. If you are going to be so particular about who you live with then maybe you should move out.

Ryan

Tuesday, 2:06 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Ryan,
I know you are suffering right now and I certainly have participated but it is not my fault you embarrassed yourself in front of Kathryn. If you watch what you say, stuff like that won’t happen. I am not responsible for your behavior. I hope some day you’ll get that. If you don’t, I hate to tell you this but you’ll always be unhappy and you will continue to feel empty inside like you do all the time now. I know what it’s like to be alone and desperate. I was the same way. Seriously, all the random hook ups, drinking, going out at night, trying to be funny all the time,etc…Is it working for you? Or do you still feel crappy when you’re left with yourself every day? Just think about it. I’m sorry you are having such a hard time controlling yourself right now. I obviously am not doing so great handling this either. But you’ve totally lost it! Bringing the police up is really an all time low, threatening to do harm to me mentally. To be honest, for the first time all day, I actually feel some compassion for you. I see your insanity and I am sorry to have participated in this up to this point. Please, take ten deep breaths, ask someone for help, pray or something.

Take care of yourself. This really isn’t worth it. Let’s just stop this. It’s totally not helping either of us.
- Amy

Tuesday, 2:26 PM
From: Ryan | To: Amy

Amy, don’t try any of your psychotic brainwashing AA bullshit on me. Despite living with you for the last year I’m a very happy person. I’m not the one who fucked up my life by not knowing how to control myself during my wild and crazy days. You don’t know anything about me, except for the fact that I have a temper - which by the way you are the only person on this Earth that can bring it out. You say you want this to be over yet you turn everyone down. This would already be over but you need to control the situation. You are a control freak and seriously need to get some help that isn’t within your little circle of meetings.

You people in AA are all the same. You think everyone who isn’t in your cult has a problem. I wish I knew you back when you were a real person, before they told you who to be, before they made you crazy my making you fill notebooks full of every fucked up thing that’s ever happened to you. You can’t even run your own life. You have to discuss everything in a committee and seek acceptance from others to build yourself up. Believe it or not but people can lead very healthy lifestyles by indulging in the occasional drink or even smoking a joint every now. That doesn’t mean the person is an addict, it just means they know how to control themselves.

Do they teach you to judge people in your cult? Because you sure are very good at that. You’ve been doing it since I moved in.
Every email of yours has been one low blow after another. And yet I have reduced myself to replying back. You really know how to bring out the worst in me. Your last email was the final straw.

Tuesday, 2:32 PM
From: Kathryn | To: Ryan

Dan is willing to take the room. too bad he has a penis.

Tuesday, 3:00 PM
From: Ryan | To: Sarra
CC: Amy

Hey Sarra, I just called my boss and he told me I could leave early tonight. I will be home around 9:00. Could you come by then? I’m leaving in a few minutes so if you need to reach me just call my cell ###-###-####.

-Ryan

Tuesday, 3:04 PM
From: Amy | To: Ryan
CC: Kathryn

Hi Ryan,
I feel very sorry for you. Unfortunately, I still will not sign off on anyone I don’t feel comfortable with. But I will not turn people down or refuse to meet them just to spite you. I am sure we will find someone although it sounds like it will take a while. I won’t live with any 20 year olds, partiers, pot smokers, or alcoholics. If you want to find someone I’m comfortable with and do not want me to
participate in the process, be my guest. So far you haven’t done this. Let me know when you’d like me to meet someone who doesn’t fall into one of those categories or if you’d like to be more cooperative in meeting people, or become willing to meet some people that I forward along.

Btw - My favorite line was about all of us in AA are the same. That cracked me up…I can’t wait to share that one with the cult!

Take care,
Amy

Tuesday, 3:27 PM
From: Sarra | To: Ryan
CC: Amy

Hey Ryan, 9 is fine. See you then!

Tuesday, 3:29 PM
From: Kathryn | To: Amy
CC: Ryan

I was not here to witness what happened before I moved into your apartment and I do not want to be a part of it. I was not told of any of this before I moved in, In fact, I was told that there would be an easy process to find a sublet if I needed to move out. If I had known everything that I know now, I can’t say that I would have so easily signed the lease knowing that I was probably moving to New York in the future. This has been anything but easy. Could you both please stop fighting because it’s only making things worse. I think I was a very good and respectful roommate and all I’m asking in return is that we cooperate on finding someone to take my place, because the bottom line is that it CANNOT take a while. I am also a good judge of character and will find someone respectful to take my place. Please trust my judgement. It’s not fair to only consider age as a first impression, we need to concentrate on things like financial stability, emotional stability and general pleasantness. Honestly, everyone in that apartment is not home that often so if someone keeps to themselves and pays the bills, what does it matter? I did not want to cause all this tension and all these blow ups and I feel truly sorry that I did. I have not received anymore replies. Perhaps we could just advertise it as a summer sublet so you have more time to find a suitable person. three months is not that long.
Amy, Dan is not 20, not an alcoholic, not a pot smoker, not a partier. He is a man, however, and i don’t know if this poses a problem. I wish it wouldnt. He is gone most evenings anyway and I honestly think you would like him.
Ryan, Please just meet with Sarra for like 10 minutes, it won’t take that long and maybe you will like her

It is absurd to just yell at each other and not even meet with people.
I think we need to set a time limit to make the decision and then make it. And I can promise you, I wouldnt leave you with anyone that I would not find suitable to live with.
I think I deserve everyone’s cooperation and an open mind on this.

Wednesday, 7:15 AM
From: Amy | To: Ryan

Sarra called and said she couldn’t make it. Sorry I’m so late telling you.

This Boston entry was posted Wednesday, July 5th, 2006 at 9:46 am.
Tags: roommates, The Eye